History:
(Links will bring you to a photograph or the page of that person.)
As so many people, I remeber little of the beginging. So let's just start.
Anybody, please correct me!
I was born on 09 October 1970 in Nijmegen, the Netherlands. When I was about two, or three, my parents divorced. My mother was still studying but managed. My father decided at that time that it would be best if he didn't see me. I was about nine/eleven before I saw him again. At that time I had no idea that I even had a father. Around the age of four/five my mother met a boyfriend. They decided to go live together, and did so until I was about ten/twelve when they broke up. My mother met a new boyfriend when I was around fourteen/fifteen. She later married him. My father meanwhile met someone and married her. After I started visiting my father on holidays and weekends they got a child. My first kid-sister (technically a half-sister) Later on they got another boy and girl. Bringing the total of two boys and two girls (including me). In 1994 my father and his second wife split up. My grandmother and grandfather of my fahter's side were also divorced before I was born. My grandmother of my mother's side lost her husband (my grandfather) because of death when I was about eight/ten. My grandmother of my father's side died when I was in Thailand in 1999.
Although it sounds very hectic and maybe problematic, I hope that I'm right when I say that I have good contacts with everybody, and I still love and respect all of them. And, if I may say so, in 95% of all the people they have normal friendly contacts between eachother.
Uncles and Aunts:
My father has a brother and a sister.
My mother has a total of seven brothers and sisters.
During my childhood, puberty, and addolecense I met many interesting people. Also we travelled a lot. When I was 15 years old I went to live in a student-house and left my mother's house (except for many a weekend).
When I was 16/17 I met in that student-house Astrid, my girlfriend and wife-to-be. After finishing studying I worked for a year, saving to go to Australia. Before we left, Astrid and me married in Nijmegen. On the way to Australia we went to discover India, where we got in the wrong environment, Kashmir with a lot of fighting and war. Very beautiful trip though, but we had enough of India and bought tickets for the first flight out of there. I've had never really heard of Thailand before, but we arrived in Bangkok and traveled South to Malaysia. In Malaysia we were offered our first jobs. That was for a restaurant on Koh Samui, Thailand. So back we went. After that we worked for a tour-operator in Bangkok, Phuket, Chiang Mai. Because of not feeling secure Astrid had a short sting with another man, and decided to go back to the Netherlands. Once gone I was not only sad and alone, but became also angry. We divorced.
I stayed in Thailand and met Khun Doi. We had fun and really tried to be together, but it didn't work out. She left with my furniture. I felt a fool.
Later I met Khun Naai. She was very very nice. However, she didn't want to commit because of her inherited blood disease. Because I went in 1994 to the Netherlands to continue studying we broke contact (after writing letters and postcards for a half-year). When I got aproval to study I didn't get a place because of placement lottery. So I decided to return to Thailand. I started to work for a big communication firm on a newspaper.
Then I met Khun Ae. Very nice and energetic. However, she worked shifts on a luxury train as stewardes, trips of 14/16 hours. It didn't work out. Also I'm not sure if there wasn't another man.
I met Khun Noi. I met her on the bus-station in Hua Hin. She was from Surat Thani. Small and thin, Chinese/Thai, Long hair with natural curls. She used to stay in Pattana guest house, but also had friends in Hua Hin where she stayed. We really hit it of. She stole my heart big time. However, she had cancer to the darm and told me that we had no future. She left and until this day I wonder what became of her. Anyone!??
Shortly afterwards, I met Khun Lek (Sirima). She got my attention, but I didn't get hers. I persisted and we soon got to stay together. At least, she says that I moved in without her permission. We had good times, and went through rough times. In 1998 my son was born. Nothing could make us both more happy. However, we really didn't fit so much together and both decided in 2000 to divorce. I went back to the Netherlands and am still there. My son stays with me.
When I came here I made some people very happy. My mother and brother and sisters. I'm also happy to be here but have (again) difficulties to get settled here. It is another world and another culture. In total I spend about eight years in Thailand. Thailand was not always good to me, sometimes very tough. But there were as many (more) good times.
Now, that I'm a single father I must say that I feel much admiration to single mothers. It can really be tough. But, it is ofcourse also very rewarding.
Life in the Netherlands is at least very good for my son. And that makes all the difference. Good environment, facilities, healthcare, etc. Children to play with. Parks, forests and lakes. All much improvement over Bangkok.
This history is not very detailed but just introduces the players that you can see on the photographs. Do you have any comments. Do you want to have anything changed, added, deleted, just tell me. Or maybe you have a question. E-mail me by
Future:
I'm not a person who likes to stay alone. So ladies! Well,..... seriously, at this moment I'm not sure what the long term future will be/bring. Just have to wait and see.